FACET Topics:Values

Making their relationship primary is a value that will be essential for a healthy and strong marriage. Hopefully, the couple holds many similar values. Even where they have dissimilar values, there will need to be some discussion where values are very different. A Venn Diagram is a good example for couples discussing values. The more you have in the area where the circles overlap the better, and the more time you spend on those things you have in common, the better.

Researchers find that the key values to be agreed upon by a couple are these six: Appreciation, Commitment, Positive communication, Enjoyable time together, Spiritual well-being, and Crisis management.

Additional Questions to assist the conversation:

• Do you think you share the key values listed above?

• Do you believe that you have similar values?

• What do you admire about your future spouse’s values?

• Can you think of an instance where your values were tested?