FACET Tool Topics, cont'd.:
Finances are often the last talked about topic within a serious relationship. It can even be a topic with a lot of emotional tension that one or both parties bring into the relationship for various reasons. One may be a saver while the other is a spender. They might have accumulated some financial assets before they are married or they may have accumulated debt they are bringing into the marriage. All this needs to get addressed. This section helps the couple speak openly and honestly about their finances. Budgets can be very formal or informal. Regardless of how they choose to deal with their finances they need to be responsible. Honesty and respect for one another are key elements of a discussion regarding finance. Because one partner is more fiscally responsible does not mean that they get to boss the other person. It may mean that they offer their strength to the relationship to help the new family reach to goals they set for themselves. Being good at handling money is a gift to be offered, not handcuffs to put on your partner.
- What am I possibly anxious about regarding our finances?
- What would make a huge difference regarding our finances if this was taken into account and acted upon?
- Do we have a way to continue the conversation about finances throughout our marriage?
- Do we anticipate interference from family around finances?